  {Pretty Pussy} After my blog on who really has a big dick, I think that this is a fitting follow-up. We all know about penis envy and how very conscious men are about their penises but we rarely ever hear about what women think of their vaginas. Some may ask why is that even relevant? Up until I saw that episode on Sex & the City, I would've asked the same question. The episode I refer to is when Charlotte was saying that her pussy was depressed. When asked why she thought that was she, (Charlotte) deferred to the fact that she thought her pussy was ugly. Samantha immediately said well that's why it's depressed! Charlotte then said she'd never really "looked" at herself down there. Sam demanded that she take her compact mirror and immediately go into the bathroom and do so! Now I've never had any hang-ups or complexes about my own privacy. I've always liked her smell and the look of her as I keep her groomed well but admittedly, up until that moment, I hadn't ever really 'looked' at her either. So for those who know me it will cum as no surprise that I got up right then, took my hand mirror into the bathroom and looked! I was surprised by what I saw! She was so beautiful! I was elated to know that, that was what men saw when they were down there. It truly enforced my care of her and opened wider my awareness of her. Therein lies the relevance of why women should become more acquainted with their pussies. There is an erotic power in it. Especially when she's clean shaven....whoa..too much power! Ladies, should u decide to do this and I strongly recommend it, don't be shy, open her up and examine, explore..heck enjoy! I've heard a woman say she didn't like it when her boyfriend performed oral sex on her then moved up to kiss her right after. ????. Why not? That's you! I believe if she'd been a woman who was more aware of the look, smell, taste (yes taste. pertinent info. also men shouldn't be the only ones to partake) and feel of herself, she wouldn't have that problem. So many women want to know the secret of being sexy. I think of course it starts in the mind with a love for yourself and all that u are but getting in the mirror and embracing all of your physical attributes and exploring yourself from head to toe goes a long way towards the goal. Also for those women who want to know how to be great in bed without all the steps? Simply put: know yourself better than he knows you! Watch how much confidence u gain. Until next time ~Kisses 
| {Why Married Couples} Many times I'm presented with this question. Some have said, as an unmarried woman what does she know of marriage? Then I have those who ask where are the variety of relationships? Where are the lesbians? Where are the threesomes? All of these are very legitimate questions. When I began writing erotica in high school, I think even then I wanted to showcase loving relationships. I believe even then my couples were married or having problems in their relationships. I think subconciously I wanted to offer ppl something real. Something they could identify with. I was once a huge romance novel buff until the day I realized that I couldn't identify with any of the characters or situations. I was a huge let down to read those types of works because it seemed so far out of reach. And in fact if anyone were to read my work from now and then, they'd be able to see the influence the romance pieces had on me and then my shift to what I felt I and other ppl actually experienced from day to day and situation to situation. They'd also be able to see my characters evolve from physical perfection to the natural differences and genetic make-ups actual ppl have (receding hairlines, cellulite, etc.) As for not being married myself, well I feel that having a relationship with God teaches one how to be in any type of relationship. Being with Him and choosing His ways everyday takes strength and a conscious effort every second with so much of the world's influence beating down like hard rain every moment. It takes a wealth of love, committment, dedication and quality time. The only thing with ppl is that they can lie, have idiocyncracies and personal behaviors that may not necessarily mesh well with our own but God says love covers a multitude of offenses. We have to open ourselves up even more to God in order to love the differences in our human counterparts. This I do know. I also know that ppl have given up on producing that kind of committment and dedication. I believe there was a time when we knew all to well how important family is. How important each generation of children is. And somewhere along the way we lost that. Ppl are giving up so easily especially those some look up to so fervently on television and in movies. Ppl marry not with the investment of blending families and strengthening communities but with a clause in their minds that divorce is possible just in case. How we've ruined our children's perception of what should be the most important institution we as human beings can establish. I believe I have been given the calling to begin to restore that. It's said that it takes three generations to change things. So perhaps when my children's children come along, I will have started the path back to unity within familial units. Especially within our nation. As far as lesbian lovers and threesomes? I really don't believe that's my work to procure. There are so many authors who are doing it out here though, I don't believe I'm needed to add to that. I have nothing against the way ppl choose to live their lives at all but I believe that I am writing where I'm needed. So if you're looking for variety I offer you this: I will always bring you different types of ppl in variety of situations you all can identify with. I will allow u to look in and see yourselves in your own lives. I offer u reality woven like a fantasy.. Thank u for cumming. ~Kisses  {How to Find Your Ideal Mate} This is a hot topic among my inner circle. I touched just a little on how to become a great lover and I believe the core answer to that question will be the foundation to answering this one. Although there is a second crutial part. Knowing yourself is more pertinent than most ppl think. U see I believe that many ppl are looking for someone to come along and "make them happy". Someone to automatically know everything they need, when they need it, how they need it like some genie in a bottle. Well even a genie asks u what u want to wish for. The truth of the matter is that no one on Earth can "make" u happy. PPl can only add to your happiness. Or at least that's how it should work. PPl can't even take your happiness away unless u allow them to. How do u find your own inner happiness? By knowing what makes u happy. What makes u smile inside. What brings u inner peace. The only way to know that is to expose yourself to a variety of things: People, occupations (if need be), environments, religions, your heritage and such. For those of us whose parents couldn't do it when we were growing up, we have to make it of the utmost importance to do it ourselves. Involve ourselves in different groups and volunteer in other communities. These types of things place us in situations where we have to make decisions, often times moral ones and moral decisions go towards what we believe in. We don't truly know ourselves until we are faced with character revealing decisions. Believe me, we may know absolutely certain things we would or wouldn't do but for the most part there are things we have no idea about what we would do until we are in the situation. So everyday that we are learning something new, we should be learning something about ourselves also. But don't just be a person with capabilites, potential and knowledge: use and share it. Once you begin to do that, you'll most likely attract your ideal mate. Whatever u exude, whatever u push out of your spirit, positive or negative, you're most likely to bring in. The second part goes to a statement I heard a celeb make. He said something like he was still 'learning how to be a boyfriend' U don't learn how to be a label. U just learn how to be the best person u are and a good person to someone else. Which simply entails showing someone u care for them, showing them respect, and being the type of enlightened person who knows how to compromise. These are the same things u would do in ANY relationship. The only difference is you're having sex with this person, sharing spirits, so the connection is deeper but the love is the same as u have for anyone else in your circle. We all have personalitiy traits that another person may find annoying but we can't expect someone to accept ours and we don't accept theirs. That's just real. And real simple. At least if more ppl would make up there minds to do such, it would be. In summary: treat your mate how u want to be treated and knowing yourself inside and out means knowing your worth. Knowing your worth means knowing what u will and won't accept or deal with and knowing how to recognize it when you're faced with it. PPl this means less unequally yoked (failed) relationships. So don't believe the magazines when they tell u there's some magic formula. The power really lies within each of us. Until next time. ~Kisses |
