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 {Understanding What Love Is..}

My recently posted blog "What Women Really Want" has received some very passionate responses. One in particular has stuck with me in the past few days since I saw it. It went like this: "lol......most of you woman are being loved and just don't have a understanding what love really is kenya so i'm not going to kiss your ass and be fake half you bitches have good men and the other half are chasing the wrong man ......or your falling for the guy who know just what you want but will never give it to you maggets your all a joke"   The first thing I think is as the bringers of life how is it possible that we not know what love is?  The next thing I think is if this guy was a good man as he seems to think most of us have, how much love is he showing by calling us names? I wonder who doesn't have the understanding.  I can agree with the fact that some females are chasing the wrong man but not only do I, myself not chase men b/c of my belief that a man finds a wife and obtains favor from the Lord but I also know that there are a lot of good women out there who are trying to give a man with potential the benefit of the doubt. We are constantly bashed and put in the category of women who only want a man that has money and can do something for us. Although so many times when we give that man who has a dream and potential for greatness a chance, we catch a lot of grief and disrespect from him. The other thing I'd like to convey is the fact that I accept everyone for exactly who there are. The last thing I'd want is for someone to feel as if they can't be themselves around me or think that it will impress me if they act 'fake'. I love the truth. I don't tell lies nor do I pretend to be something I'm not. (I think my Erotic Body album can attest to that)  That way there are less misunderstandings and heartaches to worry about.  I'm real with men whether they are real or not so he can't later say that I started out as something/someone else. I'd rather he be completely real and honest with me from the start so that our energy and concentration can go to things that are more pertinent.  I feel that the men out there who have a good woman with the potential for greatness herself, who are holding everything he knows she desires and is capable enough to give, back from her should be ashamed of himself. Not only is he hurting her but he's hurting himself which he is sure to find out in the long run. Why hold a woman like that to you? For spite? Or is it that u really care and want her but u are afraid to show it. Fear of rejection is a reality. I really don't see the downside of loving someone who loves u.   Now then I may not know all of the different ways ppl may feel like they can love or show love but I do know there is only one way to show real love and that's God's way: unconditionally. I also know what love isn't: It isn't disrespectful, intentionally hurtful, verbally, mentally or physically abusive, belittling, negative or conditional. You can't call a person disrespectful names and tell them u care. U can't put them continuously on the back burner and make them feel loved or included.  You can't cheat and expect them to trust u. U can't throw things back at a person who told u them in secret and in confidence, in a mean way and expect them to feel safe and secure with u. If u tear down their dreams and ideas, u can't expect them to believe in u.   Having said all that, I say this: I wouldn't be doing what I'm doing if I didn't take heed to the opinions, thoughts and feelings of the men who have confided in me expressing hurt, anger or joy.  In pondering this person's comment I arrived at an conclusion.  There are a lot of men and women out here hurting, waiting and searching.  We all need to come together and work on healing the destructive patterns and events of the past generations. Instead of continuing to rehash and vent about the problems (which I was not at all doing in "What women really want") we truly need to begin to discuss and work on some solutions.  I, myself, have resolved to, instead of speaking negatively about the men who have been in my life that disappointed or hurt me, I will pray for them. I haven't been helping the problem and in fact have only been sending negative energy their way. I don't want that to be what I am about.  As a woman I take my role as a helpmate seriously.  If it isn't ever written for me to show it to my husband someday then I will work to show it in every way that I can to the men who were in my life, who are in my life and to the men of my nation.  I've decided to redouble my efforts on becoming a Virtuous Woman (Proverbs 31 10-31 (26) "she opens her mouth with wisdom, And on her tongue is the law of kindness") My whole desire in what I do is to teach, encourage and uplift but my life would end if ever I stopped being open to learn. I have learned a great deal from men about their thoughts and feelings and about how to be a better woman in some areas. I value that and so I value them.  I have to show that more. I will discontinue putting negativity in the universe concerning them, no matter what and work to help heal the hurts of past lives. If not for my sake only but for future generations. I give them my apologies. I hope we all as women can come to pray, comfort and seek to heal our men. Not because they are not doing some seriously uncool things (women are too) but because of that...  Men, pray for us as well.  We all have to make up our minds to make an incredible effort to change how we treat and talk to and about one another or perish..   ~God Bless Us All