Andalwisye2 My you have a lot of questions. Good. Let's begin...in the beginning I never was one to masturbate. When I tried it as a teenager it never seemed to get me to where I needed to be. Although back then I was not having sex so I wasn't as in tuned with my body to know how to get myself to that destination! I didn't really begin to indulge in masturbation for orgasmic purposes until the hiatus after my first relationship. 2nd question: People help me to keep my work fresh and authentic. As does life. Everyday I hear from people with happy marriages and lacking ones. Everyday I learn more about people with incredible sex lives (married or not) and those that need help in theirs. Most of my work is either inspired by the story of someone's relationship that moved me or my own fantasies and desires which is a well that will hardly run dry! I'm really all about keeping my work in the realm of real ppl so that my readers can envision it for themselves. The only way I can do that is to constently meet new people and be a good listener. 3rd question: If I had to chose one, folks might be surprised for me to drop the name: Anne Rice. When she wrote erotica under a pen name it was the hottest work I've ever read. The effect it had on my body had me in such a lustful grip, I had to be mindful where I read it! She brought that same enviable sharpness and color clarity that she put in the vampire chronicles to this. If I ever aspired to be like anyone it would be her. 4th question: yes I will be doing more radio interviews in the future. I will always let everyone know when they come up! Thank u for your questions. I hope my answers satisfied ~Kisses Haitian Hersheydred My ultimate goal as a writer is to make a significant mark in the realm of African American Literature. I want to pioneer something new in the genre of erotica by bringing a new voice to the portrayal of African Americans that others rarely see. And to be honest that we rarely see of ourselves whether in books or film. I want to eventually make my work shine on the silver screen as well. I'd like to do my part in putting certain stereotypes and myths about Black men and women and our sexuality to rest. Thank u for your question! ~Kisses Papa Bear Unfortunately I haven't had an experience that encompasses all of those things as yet and so I have no story to reflect it. But when that time cums I'm sure I'll be able to properly put it into words to share with my readers! Thank u ~K Kennymack Most ppl would say I'm sexy b/c of my looks or my mind or my talent. These things would be true. I would say I am sexy because I am very in touch with myself and my feelings and have no trouble conveying these things to ppl. I'm very earthy, spiritual and sexual and I make no apologies for it but in fact share these aspects of myself liberally. And lastly I love who I am which makes me a confident and strong woman. I think that's sexy! Thanks for your question..K EmpressRMS Sorry it took so long! *gulp* but I promise to try and change that for the future. Thank u for the congrats and question..K Sir Anthony Being that my work is solely among married couples I don't have any plans, as yet, to write stories involving 3 ppl. For my work that would mean bringing another person in a marital bed. Now I do know that this happens everyday consentually, my beliefs are that inviting someone else in on what is already a difficult task to work at keeping growing, happy and peaceful is just asking for trouble. Now while some relationships can handle, I suppose, I know that many others have fallen apart because of it. As it is that I'm using my work to try and promote happy, healthy marriages, I believe I'll choose to leave threesomes to other writers unless there is something in the situation that I learn about later on that will move me to speak about it. thank u for your question. ~Kisses Valdez I do enjoy roleplaying very much. The fantasy of it all is a chance to indulge in a fantasy realm we as adults rarely get a chance to do! As it is that my partners have thus far underestimated the lengths to which I will go to make sure that they and I have and incredible sexual experience they don't tap into all of that energy, creativity and imagination so I don't engage in it as much as I would like. As for what scenario I like the most it would have to be anything where my partner has control over me i.e. boss/maid or one of my favs would have to be rake and vestal virgin. I like playing the virgin taken none to gently by the armorous admirer. And playing hard to get *grin. When it cums to my lover to quote Nicole S "I'll do whatever u like". Outside of R's special brand of sexin' :( Thanks for the question. ~K Valdez While I do know the problem that some black ppl have with S&M I can't speak for an entire nation. I can only speak for myself. Now there was once a woman (black) who said to me that black ppl shouldn't want to be 'tied up' or be in chains during sex play. I don't see why not. While our ancestors did suffer that humiliation, our generation, thanks be to God, has not. My thoughts are that if we allow the past to dictate all of the choices that we make in our personal/sex lives then we are putting ourselves in chains. I think everyone should be "free" to enjoy sex and sex play any way that they see fit or is pleasurable to them. Otherwise what is the point of being 'free'? I am a masochist in that I enjoy being submissive and derive pleasure in having some pain inflicted upon me during or before sex (choking, spanking etc.) I don't take it to the degree of some but I don't see it as being "owned" or "degraded" as some who disagree with the practice might. I view it as 'trusting' my lover enough to know 1. how far to go and 2. not to abuse the control I've 'given' them over me. In that respect I allow myself to be pleased and to have the pleasure of enjoying what gets me off without the crushing thoughts of how others may judge my actions. So my opinion if that perhaps is black ppl changed their viewpoint, S&M wouldn't seem like a throwback to slavery. thank u for your question :) ~kisses Valdez Of course I derive a sense of sexual control! LOL! I said I 'give' them the power over me. As a naturally aggressive and dominate person I can't totally relinquish control. I love knowing that I can be dominated but if I have to I want to be able to either stop the situation if it get out of hand or flip the situation in my favor if I so choose! Some women view being submissive as a weakness. I see the strength in being able to allow another person to be strong for a while. thanks again. ~ K In addition 1st question what do I like about OTK spanking? simple. the pleasure and the pain! ;) 2nd question I'm not certain where that term gets it's origins. Some say prison. surprise, surprise. What I do know is that it feels great! My favorite room for sex; bathroom. Three words: mirrors and water! Greg I honestly can't say what 'the best' is. I don't normally go that route as far as lubes. My body's usually got it covered! There are so many different ones out there doing different things the only clear advice to give is to try them out and see what's the best for u and your partner. If I had to guess I'd give the old stand-by: K-Y baby! thanks for your question. ~Kisses Ray Thanks for stopping by and the *ahem* info! ~Kisses Andrea Truly I would have to say my inspiration comes from my deep belief in marriage as a profound and important institution and my love of people especially those of my own race. I have the desire with my gift to not only try and mend the perception of marriage among us and the way we are perceived sexually/intimately but to also leave an inspiration for the generations behind us! thank u for your question. ~Kisses Andrea When I first saw your question I thought both are equally pleasureable for me. But then after a few moments I realized that wasn't so. I had to admit that I enjoyed, prose which can include penning stories more so than poetry. I enjoy creating or actually introducing the characters that present themselves to me, to my readers. I enjoy creating the sights, sounds, smells, feelings and environments of their worlds. I really enjoy creating lasting scenarios that ppl can identify with, be encouraged by and enjoy. Now however my work cums out, whether poetry or prose, I feel blessed to have the gift and am thankful that it has been given to me in such a way that I can light ppls fires and stir their emotions..! :) thanx ~Kisses Linda I believe reaching your Goddess level is a spiritual thing. It's really in essence knowing your complete self as a woman, loving and embracing all that u know, especially your gifts and that which draws ppl to you for benefit and good, embracing all of it and being empowered by your position in this world and in the lives of those immediately surrounding you that u effect each day. It's about knowing how important you are in the grand scheme of life and taking responsibility for that importance and making the most of the length of your existence. This all comes with self assessment (analyzing your traits, good and bad. And learning about your emotional, mental, spiritual and sexual traits) and being open to knowledge and change. Growth is the only way to reach your full potential in anything but especially with yourself. Once u stop growing and learning your light shines a little more dimly until it ceases all together without having made it's mark on the world. So let your light shine as bright as it can by loving the person God made you! {Second question} I don't believe you can have soul fulfilling love making without soul fulfilling love. Since you are a goddess in training you must search your heart and see where your emotions lie with your lover. I say this because the more u love, respect and admire someone the more you want to please them, in bed and out. When your heart is filled with love u approach sex and all the things u do therein differently. You're much more motivated to bring out a top performance and when your partner feels the same way the outcome will be that you'll both heartily seek to please one another and in so doing u each will feel the love behind the actions and the afterglow of the climax will be that much sweeter! Hope that helped. Thanx for your question! ~Kisses Valdez Some of my favorite sex toys would include paddles, paddles and more paddles! I enjoy being spanked by someone who knows how. Scarves and handcuffs are also in a high running. I am a mental person so anything that would allow someone I trust to have complete control over me during sex is a great plus at times ~kisses | I'll keep this one short and sweet. In here I will answer all of your questions. Everything you've ever wanted to know about me or just anything u think I may have the answer to for u. Nothing is off limits or taboo. Ask away.... ~Kisses        |
