{Sex & Spirituality} You know there came a time in my life when I wanted this part of me taken away, or as I asked God to "cut it out of me".  Once I found Christ I thought there is no way that God could have created me like this.  Just becoming saved and going on what I newly knew about my Savior, I truly thought that something was wrong with me.  For a long while I  was torn between serving my God and blocking all else I thought was not of Him about me and pulling back from serving Him so much lest I lose myself. Both feelings were so strong, I was confused for awhile. I went through alot of life experiences before I found the common factor.  The more I came to know God, the more I had to humble myself and concede all the work to Him.  God created me. God created sex.  He created me and all that I am for His purposes and He created sex more for the purpose of marriage, though I don't believe He is going to smite me for having indulged thus far. (My belief only)  So in essence asking Him to take a part of me out that He'd created for His reasons was an insult. And am I ever glad He allowed me to come to that realization! As a saved woman all that I am is His and so though I do what I do with myself and my gifts, I can still very much have a relationship with Him and even enhance it each day.  I know that He knows my heart and all of my actions come from a pure place.  Meaning I have no place in my heart to create or insight malice towards anyone. I have no desire to harm, hate or mislead.  Now before arriving at the destination I am at now, as a child feeling these feelings (and liking them) being approached by boys, young men and grown men without my opening my mouth, being developed fully or knowing about this engaging power, I felt like a freak.  Not the good kind but the kind where u belong in the circus with the bearded lady. I should have known having that kind of effect on ppl without knowing what it was had to have come from Him. How presumptious of me to think otherwise. And now here I am on the verge of making the writing of erotic stories, the energy that forges them dating back years before I could read or utter anything concerning the topic, is about to make a comfortable living for myself and my family. That is also why I quoted earlier give yourself to your gifts and to what motivates and feeds them.  I had to mention my relationship with God because first it's always  been apart of my life since I was born a premie with a very low chance of living or living without being brain damaged, until now.  And second because there are those who have come by and told me that I am doing the 'wrong' thing with the extraordinary gift God has given me. I don't blame or judge them. At one point I felt uncertain.  But I know He lives in me and my heart is content with what I am doing.  I don't know all of His reasons and neither do they but then...He's God!  As long as my heart is not troubled then I know He's guiding me.  I hope this mention will also help others with perhaps the same dilemma or one of another type.  My first piece of advice to those venturing into the erotic writing genre or those in life who might have issues with sex with their mates: Don't be afraid of sex. Own it. It was created for you to enjoy, otherwise it wouldn't feel so heavenly! Stay tuned for more.  ~Kisses

{Anal Sex} Now I know this is a big leap-God to Anal Sex...But to me the blogging of both have a wealth of importance in different ways. Me? I'm the type that has no problem talking about what other ppl won't. I'm not afraid to speak and say what's on my mind about anything. Although some folks don't cotton to that to well. *smile.  Anyway it seems that anal sex is the new taboo thing that is hush hush while talking about sex. For some reason with so many ppl it has the "eww" factor. I have many ppl that ask me about it, not on myspace, but in my personal life and so many of them have not tried it for one reason or another and have lot's of questions. As a disclaimer let me say that I do not judge anyone's preferences concerning sex. What anyone does or doesn't do behind or outside of closed doors is their own business.  But since this topic is such a undercover hot one and everyone has their own feelings on it, I thought I'd blog about mine. As I've said before, in some ways I've always been emmersed in sexual things so I've never been afraid of sex. Instead I've embraced it wholeheartedly.  As a virgin I knew that I wanted to try everything at least once! So when I started having sex at 19 I asked the guy after a while if we could try anal sex. I don't think it was  prevelantly done or talked about as it is now but I'd heard of it. The guy was surprised. And even though he was much more experienced than I, I don't think he'd done it yet. Now this is for those ladies(and men who are curious and may be too nervous or afraid to ask) out there who are contemplating it or getting close to making it happen. Just as in the article below will tell u, don't give up! Yes it's gonna hurt at first or the first time or what have you but remember for a lot of us vaginal sex hurt the first time but that didn't stop anyone from doing that! Me, myself? I think it's grand! Of course there are more precautions one must take but the rewards? My goodness! Now you guys know I wouldn't tell u anything wrong.. I'm NEVER gonna talk about what I don't know about either. This is for those who have wondered but couldn't verbalize it or were embarrassed to ask. I gotcha back! Now all I can tell u all is the "try it and see" part. The rest, health issues and such, u will ascertain in the article I thought would also be helpful to my ppl. I want everyone who WANTS to enjoy sex to be able to do so. If I can help any one person in some part to do that?  Then my job is well done! As a side note, u can't be bangin' it out, roughly, every night. I say use it as a treat for the tentative and for beginners. Oh and some folks be trippin about the fact that waste goes through there...well if u think about it, waste cums out of your pores in the form of sweat, out of the penis in the form of urine, out of the vagina in the form of blood, out of the nose in the form of muscus, out of the mouth and stomach in the form of vomit, and so on. So if that's one's only reason (excuse) well then u should be having sex like they did in the film "Demolition Man" (rent it) :) But for those of us who are 'old skool', strap up, lube up get your energy up, do your research and own it, baby!  And now onto the scientific back up (to see the entire article search Yahoo Answers -Anal Sex??).. until next time, do everything I would.  ~Kisses

Anal sex does have inherent risks, but then again, all sex has some risk, I think. The tissues that line the anus and rectum are very delicate, very thin, and quite sensitive (much more so than vaginal tissue, which can, quite honestly, take a lot of abuse before anything bad happens), which may lead to small tears. They are usually nothing to worry about, but they are there, and because feces do travel that route, there is always a chance of infection in one of the small, miniscule tears.       But at the same time, these are worst-case scenarios. The majority of people experience nothing more than pleasure from anal sex, even if they practice it often.

Don't believe the myths that anal sex causes hemorrhoids or that it will stretch out your anus and leave you incontinent- those aren't true. Unless you're taking a very large object (like the size of a fist or arm) into the anus every day for ten years, you'll be absolutely fine- the rectum is a muscle that shrinks back to its normal size after anal sex. Believe me, it's resilient- it can take a heck of a lot without any ill effects.

Anal sex can be very pleasurable for both sexes, and yes, it has potential dangers, but nothing about it is inherently unhealthy. Many women enjoy it and suffer no ill effects. If you're going to do it, go very, very slow, make sure you practice safe sex (it's easier to get STD's with anal sex), use tons and tons and tons of a good-quality lube made specifically for anal sex, and build up to the real thing (I suggest starting with fingers or small toys). Get very aroused or have a few orgasms before you start so that you're relaxed.  Don't use lubes that have numbing agents in them if something goes wrong, you won't know what's happening, and pain is, after all, your body telling you that something's wrong. Don't give up on anal sex if you don't like it the first time- it takes a few tries before it becomes mind-blowingly pleasurable. Don't do it if you don't want to (don't be pressured by anyone if you feel uncomfortable). Remember that first-time anal sex can be quite uncomfortable, but it shouldn't be painful- sex should never be painful. Do lots of research and read up on the issue beforehand, and share this information with your partner. Make sure he/she knows what's going down when you decide to do anal sex. And remember to have fun- that's what sex and experimentation is all about!

 {Oral Sex}  It's proper terms are fellatio and cunnilingus. I, for one like both of those terms.  If I could, allow me to speak on the myths first. Not too long ago, maybe about 3 or 4 yrs, I learned, as a black woman, that black women didn't suck dick (if anyone is offended by that brass term, u haven't read my work) or for the conservative, perform fellatio. WHAT!?! Now I thought this was some kind of joke but then I began to hear it much more often and from black men! So of course I began to dig. Turns out  that this was the concensus among an alarming number of men. Of course it was definitely news to me b/c I never had a problem with it. I enjoy it greatly in fact. I always say "I do it for you but mostly for me :)" So after the initial shock wore off I began to ask men what were the reasons these women were giving for not going down on them. U guys won't believe the number 1: I wasn't raised like that: WTF! What kind of weird household did these folks cum from?  The only talk my mom gave me about sex was that boys were nasty and only wanted one thing. There certainly was no talk about specifics like "don't ever put your mouth on a man's penis!" Now while I understand that, that may have been said in some of the more strictly religious households..I also understand it ain't THAT many strictly religious households! Now either these women just don't want to, and that's fine but for me, if u don't perform oral sex on your mate? I don't think u should EXPECT oral sex for yourself. Some may disagree but that's how I feel. Give and Take baby, 50/50. Or they are not in touch with their sexuality enough to venture out and do things they've never done before, which they probably haven't done b/c they have the preconceived notion that it "nasty" or a "sin". U know for a long time ppl were saying that performing fellatio was a sin. I've never read it. hmmm.  Another way for ppl to control what folks did in the privacy of their own bedrooms. Now if you're a woman who is just that conservative or not that into sex *gulp* (they are out there) then, hey that's u and I don't judge. But I do say make sure u know exactly which one you are....(p.s. there are some major rewards to be had -see Katt Williams) My guys reading this might say we should be talking about swallowing and spitting. Well that's each one's preference but I think spitting is a very unattractive habit. :)  Now on to the fellas..  First let me shout out to my guys who LOVE to eat pussy (see above for the conservatives) or perform cunnilingus. Now I'm not talking about those who do it out of obligation or just do it as step one to get to step two. I'm talkin about my freak boys who go down instantly and stay down until the bed turns into a sea of feminine juices and u have to put the heel of your foot on his shoulder and kick him off! The ones that make u scream until your throat is sore and pull all the sheets off the bed and he hasn't even fucked u yet!  Ladies a moment of silent reflection for those oh so rare brothas.................. mmmmmmm..  Now then on the other end of the scale there are those men who don't like to perform cunnilingus. *tears of sorrow*  For u fellas who have no idea what u are doing but have the passion, stop, ask and get some lessons baby. We'll wait on ya. Passion goes a long way! For those who are just plain out too nice/nasty to get your faces wet? U guys are wack cuz you're the main ones who are always pushing a woman's head down to get your dick sucked. Again if you don't give it, don't EXPECT to receive it. I've actually heard men, MEN say that  "it's nasty" Oh but it's not nasty for a woman to put her mouth on u. And the pussy isn't so nasty you can't put your penis in it. (I really wanted to say cock)  For u guys that really are just overly conservative or religious or whatever your reason is, God bless and do you. But for u others out there? Be on notice: U better get your game up b/c I feel that we women need to stop settling and giving all the oral pleasures and receiving very little to none and start being like men: We are gonna be out if u ain't giving head!  On an end note ladies and gentlemen whatever u do, perform cunnilingus or fellatio, each time always try to make it better than the last and be better than u were before. Those are my thoughts. Hope it did somebody, somewhere some good!  As always, do everything I would do (only for the freaks and freaks in training)   ~Kisses

 

{Sexual Expression}  Let me set the record straight.  See there are those that think that just because I express myself freely and openly and without a care for judgement that I am a freak.  And I am. But I'm a freak meaning I am open to all things that stimulate me sexually and am more than willing to share those things with a loyal partner as often as I can. It does not mean that I'm a slut. Some men have misconstrued the fact that I enjoy and have no qualms about expressing my spiritual and sexual self in an open forum with the idea that I am promiscuous. This assumption makes an ass of them. I know that many ppl are unable to express themselves in this manner publicly or privately, with others or with their partners. The reason I am able to do it has alot to do with the introduction to me that I gave u all on the homepage. I was inducted to the halls of many things sexual at an early age and more than that, I'm tapped into that part of me so much so that I embrace it and recognize it as an attribute and a forceful energy to be used with the partner of my choosing or to be helpful to others. The shy come to me privately with questions they know I will happily answer truthfully and to the best of my ability. And then I have those that come by and say "let's me and you join up and explore our love of sex together"  (sigh)  First I'd like to say to those ppl have  some class and respect.  Secondly I'm not a nympho. I don't love sex in that sense. I love God. I love my children.  I ENJOY sex and am not afraid or ashamed to say so. What this makes me is confident, open and self aware. This is the difference folks. But the thing of it is: Comments and the feelings that come with  statements like the one above along with judements like "oh she must be a slut" keeps many women (and some men) from fully expressing themselves sexually. I don't  physically express my mental sex with everyone. I verbally express my mental sex with ppl of like minds and those that can benefit from it on some level.  Therein lies the difference between myself and someone who feels they must physically express it with every person that they feel such feelings for (or not) for validation or defining purposes. I used to allow other ppl to define me.  Whatever they thought I looked like or spoke like or should act like, that's how I saw myself.  Until I realized that these ppl were gonna damn me whatever I did so I might as well be myself and be the best me that I could be. In this way I give them a reason to hate on me and it let's me know that the ppl around me are around because of who I truly am.  Those who don't like my brutally honest, analytical, candid, sensual manner have a choice to make. I hope I've inspired someone to break out of the mold and embrace themselves in all of their spiritual, emotional and sexual glory!  I am completely the person that God made me to be and I love that.....but don't get it twisted!  Until next time  ~Kisses

 {Big Dicks} Normally this would start with does size matter but that'd be too tame for me ;). Let's finally answer the questions to what this is all about. Who has one? Does it matter? A couple things prompted me to start this blog. One thing being a reader posting a comment on the position of the week, saying "If u have a big dick you don't have to do all this bulls**t"  Of course I and someone else immediately disagreed with him. First having a big penis isn't everything. You MUST have skill, passion and a desire to please. Secondly, this got me to thinking. What that guy thought was a big dick may not be a big dick. I can see how this thought process can come to pass. There are some females I've heard tell who want nothing less than 12 inches and over. For those females I say: good luck and God bless. I don't have enough room at the inn for all that! Plus all that hammering isn't easy on the cervix. For the women who know, we see big differently.  Guys listen up and well measure up: Big = 9inches or more and a fist full of thickness. You know...like a polish sausage :)   Let's get something straight before we continue.  There aren't just two categories, big and small, like most ppl think.  If a man falls under the 9 inch category that doesn't make him 'small'. On the contrary, let's talk statistics. "the average erect penis length is 5.5 to 6.5 inches, and the average circumference is 4.5 to 5 inches."  That may seem small to those who watch alot of porn or read those novels where all men have 8 inches or more but the truth is, is that this is average. Average meaning many of the dudes we pass all day everyday have a five to six inch penis. I would think anything LESS than that would be considered small. (and yes there is less out there)  Okay recap: Big = 9 or more/ Small less than 5....Now we'll talk about what I call the perfect dick.  In order to speak on this, we'll have to be talking about a little luck.  This piece would be seven lovely inches long, erect (8 a blessing) and 5 inches thick, with the head bloomed out like a mushroom.  I like the ridge *smile. I know of a man with one such a penis but with the extras of having a lil larger than average mushroomed head and a slight bend. Bends are good for G-spots ladies and gentlemen..trust me. So before u brag or boast or even hang your head in shame, read here and measure up. U may be working with more than u think...For the real women who know, don't keep your man in the dark!

 

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